Last night, I was sitting here at the computer and visited the dating site I belong to.  This dating site has a rather extensive blog function, and people do take advantage of it to post on a variety of topics.  Some of the newest posts are featured down the right-hand sidebar, and it was there that I read this 22-year-old male’s post on polyamory.  This is in part what it said:

…Since the mere fact that I’m listed as “married” and also “available” on my profile will probably turn some heads, not to mention the fact that I talk a little about my wife on my profile, it probably makes sense to write a little about our arrangement here, so as to demystify it, and maybe make me look a little less creepy to the skeptics out there…

…See, we’re not swingers. We don’t sleep around. We don’t approve of sex-only relationships or one-night stands. For us, polyamory is not just about having sex with people outside of the marriage (though we do allow it); it’s about allowing each other to connect romantically with other people too. Just because I have her, and she has me, doesn’t mean we can’t be attracted to other people, nor that we have to miss out on something as beautiful and fulfilling as love, be it the love we have and will always have for each other, or the excitement of new love.

But it’s not just that, either. My wife and I both recognize that we have needs the other can’t fill. Or would rather not have to. I like going out and being social - she hates it. So if I have a girlfriend who likes going out and meeting people or being social, then it benefits all three of us, and, consequently, the marriage…

What a polarizing post, astonishingly enough!  The heated debate ranked right up there with such topics as abortion, gay marriage, and capital punishment! 

This, of course, got me thinking about my own situation…

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