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I’ve struggled with this issue a bit lately: what to do with the personal subject matter of my sexual orientation?  A significant part of me wanted to just put it in my “regular” blog where I write about a variety of subjects pertaining to my life.  Why make this topic any different from writing about my marriage or my job or the movies I’ve seen?

Because it is different.

I’ve got a few friends on my other blog who might be uncomfortable reading about my sexual orientation.  I don’t want to subject them to that discomfort unless they actively express an interest in knowing, either directly or because they’ve come across my blog through certain search terms that they themselves have employed.  I don’t want to open up a lot of controversies with nonsupportive, unappreciative folks!  That’s not the purpose of writing a blog like this.

So what IS the purpose?  The purpose is to allow myself to talk about, share, and explore these issues without censoring myself.  I feel as though I’m in a phase of my life again where I need to do that.  I need to connect with some like-minded people and develop a personal support group who can appreciate this journey.  For the most part, this has been a very lonely journey, and I’m very frustrated with being isolated and lonely!

I’ll give Marissa some credit here for getting this particular journal underway.  Her post, “Censoring Me,”  rattled my cage, got me to thinking about this issue of what to say where.  I don’t really like compartmentalizing my life this way.  I feel as though I should just be able to put everything out there in proud and forthright terms, my personal photo right along side those posts, my friends and family able to read it if they so choose, without trepidation and concern about the consequences.  But that’s a Perfect World, the one that exists in my fantasy life!  I know that there would be concerns and possible unpleasant repercussions if I put it all out there under my true, unveiled identity.  This is a compromise, a relatively safe place to write without censoring myself, and I need that right now.

So, if you’re an invited friend, or if you’ve come across this blog because you’re looking for like-minded folks as well, stop and read.  Comment.  Become a friend.

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